How is your sharing ability? When people ask you what’s going on do you answer with the typical, ” Oh, everything is fine”? Or do you spill a whole bucket of words, thoughts, anxieties, humor and chaos? If you can identify with the first type of person, please know how much I admire your ability to not over share but instead express yourself in under twenty words! I don’t know how you do it! When people ask me what’s going on in my world, I always find myself using way too many words to answer them! I mean asking how I am is such a loaded question for me and I treat it like a church pot luck…I’m bringing one of everything to the table!
Now I am making this over conversationalism ( if that is even a word!) sound like a bad thing, but is it? On one hand, yes you should be respectful of other’s time and not monopolize the conversation with talk of just you. However, I really feel like there is a fine line to this sharing thing. I usually try to keep my answer short and sweet, but it is my heart’s desire to be honest and really open up when someone asks me what is going on in my life.
In my short and sweet manner, I would like to tell you why!
When I was about 20, I was part of a college and career Sunday school class that I loved so much! One night, we all got together at our teacher’s house to spend some time together and of course, eat pizza! After dinner, we really dove into some deep conversation. Everyone started sharing about things they were struggling with. The topics ranged from issues with parents, career goals, dating, the future, relationships with God, serious stuff. Can I tell you how great it felt to know that I was not alone?! I had convinced myself that I was the only one bouncing around like a ping pong ball and that everyone else had it together. By truly answering the “how are you” question, we not only were able to encourage each other, but we assured each other that we were not alone.
That night was a fond memory for me. I used to think of it often but I considered the issue of feeling alone in your problems to be isolated to people in their early 20s. It only made sense that young people felt a little lost and overwhelmed. At that age, your whole world is changing and there are big decisions to be made. Surely, this issue fizzled out once you become a real adult!
Fast forward a few years later. A family friend called our floral shop one afternoon to order some flowers. As we took a minute to catch up, this sweet lady made the huge mistake of asking me how everything was going! Well, I was having one of those honest days and I broke loose like releasing water into an open cavity! Ain’t no stoppin’ it now! I don’t remember what was going on or what I shared with her, but when I finally came up for air, she picked up where I left off! She told me about a health issue that was driving her over the edge, some work insanity, teenage daughter drama, ect. Then she proceeded to thank me! She said how great it felt to get things off her chest by talking to me about it and equally how glad she was to know that she was not alone with her problems. My probably way too detailed over sharing had given this lady the encouragement that she was not the only one with crazy going on. Because I had opened up with her, she felt the liberty to do the same with me.
I learned two lessons that day. First, “real adults” have big problems too. Second, people need to know that they are not alone.
My sweet friend was blessed by what I thought were problems in my life that I wanted to get rid of . My aggravation was a means of encouragement for her. All of the sudden, these little things did not seem so awful. I had shown her that she was not alone with her troubles and she had shown me the same thing. All we had to do was be honest with each other about our struggles. Isn’t honesty a blessing!
Galatians 6:2- Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.
This verse and these two little stories I have shared with you are some of the biggest reasons why I started this blog. It is my heart’s desire that you, friend, know 100% that you are not alone! God is with you always (Matthew 28:20) and He has also surrounded you with people who are walking the same path that you are. If you believe that you are in a place all by yourself, you are believing a lie. There are always other people who can relate and testify to your situation. The thing is, you have to be willing to open up with others. Let them in on what’s really going on. Otherwise, no one will ever chime in to lift you up because they do not know that there is a need.
One of my most favorite verses is Ecclesiastes 4:12- Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. God is instructing us to partner up. If we are all in this life thing together and our eyes are fixed on Him, we will not only live this life abundantly but also victoriously in our Savior.
So here is my commitment to you. It is my mission with this blog to first and foremost, share the message of Christ. He is my everything and I owe Him my life. Second, this blog is meant to encourage you and assure you that you are not alone. Never! We are all here for each other as brothers and sisters in Christ. Let’s join hands within this little blog group to create a mighty three stranded cord!
All of you sweet readers are in my heart and in my prayers.
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