Well, it may not be a word, but it is definitely a thing. In the last blog post, we talked about seduction and how it works. Seduction, no matter what kind, makes us feel wanted. It does not have to be a sexual experience. Most often, we are seduced by that constant longing for acceptance. What can we do, how can we act or how far can we push things in order for us to be accepted by a certain individual or group?
While this practice is a dangerous one that can lead us into all kinds of places we do not need to be, anti seduction is equally as dangerous.
What is anti seduction?
It is the opposite of seduction. Seduction is giving into situation because it makes us feel wanted, and with anti seduction we will pull away from a situation if we feel unwanted. Does that click with you? It took me a week to grab this, so bear with me and let me break it down a little more!
Know Your Enemy
First, we must always remember that seduction is one of Satan’s oldest schemes. He will do anything to draw us into something other than God to makes us feel temporarily complete. No matter how harmless his little ways may seem, he has an ultimate purpose for your life. To steal, kill and destroy – John 10:10. If Satan can do that by seducing you into bad situations where you feel wanted then he will do it.
However, Satan will also attempt to remove you from a good situation by trying to make you feel unwanted. What is one of the best examples of that in our world today? I believe it is in the church.
Couples Only Please
I tried to find some more recent numbers, but no go so we’ll have to stick with these! In 2014 and 2015, there were several studies done that revealed that for the first time ever in the history of America, we had more singles than married couples. More than likely, that number has increased even further in the last two years.
Do you find that to be true where you live? Are there more single people than married people? In my Alabama hometown, we have way more married couples than singles. Being single myself, I am definitely in the minority around here!
Since we do have a lot more married couples and families here, our town’s atmosphere is very designed to accommodate “family life”. This can also be true in our churches.
It is hard to have a thriving singles ministry in a small town. Large Southern towns can pull it off, but smaller towns like mine have a really hard time getting singles to get involved in church. So what does the church do? If they can not get a singles ministry to come together, the only other option is to integrate singles into married couple Sunday school classes and Bible study groups. While that does not bother me personally, attending a couples group as a single can make a lot of people very uncomfortable.
This is where the anti seduction comes into play. Satan obviously does not want anyone involved in church, so if he can get into the minds of some who are having a hard time fitting in, then he can try to draw them away. In the same way that seduction makes us feel wanted, anti seduction makes us feel unwanted. Where would Satan love for a person to feel the most unwanted? Church.
Ignore Those Lies
In regards to singles, Satan appears to be having his way. He is convincing singles everywhere that there is no place for them in church. He whispers lies like-
“Church is for families”
“They only want married couples because they can bring in more money”
“What would you have to offer a fellow church member who is struggling? You’re not even married. What do you know?”
Lies like those may seem a little far fetched to you, but believe me they are real and they are the kind of lies that played in my head for years. Satan did his best to convince me that I had no place in my own church because I was single. He would have loved to get me to stop going to church or at least isolate myself while I was at church so that I could be more easily manipulation by him.
Let’s set things straight today, though. The truth is, if you are a Christian, then your church is your place no matter your marital statice. Not only are you welcome there, you are expected to be there.
Not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another-and all the more as you see the Day approaching. Hebrews 10:25 NIV
Are you single or know someone who is? Do not allow Satan to decide what your place is or is not. Do not give him the opportunity to make you feel wanted or unwanted. As a Christian, we are the Bride of Christ and we need to be together.
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12
How Can You Help?
If you are single person in your church today, there are so many ways for you to jump in and get involved. Being single myself, I believe that the singles in the church should pick up the slack as we do not have the responsibility of a spouse and children on us. Here are a few ideas for you to try!
-Teach or co teach a Sunday school class
-Get involved in your children’s ministry or youth ministry
-Host a Bible study and encourage other singles to join you
-Volunteer with your church’s shut in ministry for those who can not attend church due to illness
-Organize a group to regularly visit your local nursing home and read to the patients who do not get many visitors
If you are married, there are many ways that you can make a single feel welcome and wanted in your church. Here are a few ideas for you!
-Designate events for just the ladies of the church of the church. Singles will be much more likes to get involved in a non couple atmosphere
-Invite a single lady to join you and your friends at the park. While the kiddos play, you can all talk. Let her know that she does not have to be a mom in order to be enjoyable company and fit in
-Encourage her to get involved. Whether it is the choir or the new Bible study group, make sure she knows that she is valued in the church body
-Invest in her. Often, singles do not have anyone to deeply talk to. This can be a very lonely feeling. Spend time letting her talk, dream, confide and share with you
-Express your gratitude. If a single is pouring her energy into a ministry or a need within your church, let her know that her hard work and commitment is noticed and appreciated.
Do your part to stop anti seduction in your church. Singles between the ages of early twenty to fifties are very disconnected from our churches today and we should be doing everything we can to make them feel welcome, wanted and valued. They are our sisters in Christ and must be loved as family. Let’s stop Satan’s anti seduction among our single family today!
Be sure to come back next week for part two of our anti seduction talk. I’m going to share my single girl’s opinion of today’s marriages and I have the inside scoop!
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