When you hear the word Micromanage, what mental image do you get? I think of the peanut corporation owner on the original Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory movie. A man in a press box on the second floor. He is carefully watching all of his employees working below him. He sees who is working too slow, who is talking too much and who is breaking the “no chewing gum” rule. He comes down onto the work floor often and walks among the rows of employees. He tells every individual how to do their job better. He visits accounting and proceeds to do the same thing there and at the board meeting and the break room and on and on. This man is 100% involved in every little detail of his business and does not let a paperclip move without his consent.
Now, here in the South, we call this having your fingers in too many pies! With one finger in every pie, you can not take a real bite of anything. Instead, you only get a lick of everything and miss out on the full experience.
Pie Licker or Pie Eater?
Can you relate? Do you really dive into your pie and enjoy it or do you have all of your fingers in different pies trying to take part in all of them?
Do you try to control and be a part of every little area of your job or do you step back and delegate tasks to others? Maybe things are best when you do it, but is it worth completely exhausting yourself and endangering your health?
Are you the absolute say with everything that involves your children or do you trust that whoever is watching them equally has their best interest at heart? No, another care giver may not do it like you, if they love your child and do everything they can to make them happy and safe, is that ok?
What about with your own life? Do you pour hours a week trying to tweak circumstances and outcomes to fit into your “perfect life vision board” or do you take a step back and give your daily stuff over to God?
Micromanager or Delegator
Hmmm, these are some tough questions! I see myself being much more of a pie licker aka-micromanager than a pie eater-aka delegator? What about you? Delegating is one of the hardest things for me to do. I am a bit (or maybe a lot) of a control freak. There, I said it! I can get so caught up in the way I think something needs to be or the outcome something needs to have or how a situation needs to be handled that I start believing that I am the only one who can do it right….and this right and that one right and next week’s stuff right!
It’s madness! Before I know it, I can be burdened down with micromanaging so much stuff that there is no time left for me to focus on the important things. Then I get frustrated that I have no time for the important things and take that frustration out on the things or people that I am trying to micromanage in the first place. It is an awful cycle!
Instead, why do you and I not try to delegate out some of our tasks and responsibilities? Obviously, there are just some things that we have to do ourselves, but is there anything in your day to day life that someone else would be willing to help you with?
How I Delegated
One quick example- I have taught a children’s Sunday school class at my church for several years. While I have always done fine by myself, I struggled big time this past winter. I was so sick from November to April that I seriously considered giving up my class because I just could not handle it. I was completely heart broken about the prospect of having to do that and cried a lot of tears over it. As He always does, though, Jesus showed up with a solution when I least expected it. Rather than me having to give up my sweet class, He gave me the idea of asking a childhood friend of mine to co teach with me. Delegate! I did not have to do it all and come to find out, my friend was more than eager to get involved! She has been a huge blessing to me and allowed me to keep doing what I loved. We are a great team and I hope we teach together for a long time to come!
Our Bridegroom Wants Us To Delegate To Him
As our Bridegroom, Jesus never intended for us to be burdened down, stressed and exhausted by the pressures and responsibilities of life. We are His Bride and He wants us to come to Him with whatever is going on in our lives. It is His desire to be involved in our worlds and to take care of things for us. We can delegate to Him.
What does that look like? To delegate is to entrust, pass on or turn over to someone else. Who better to trust with what overwhelms us than Jesus, the lover of our soul?
Therefore, let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16
When do you find yourself needed the biggest doses of mercy and grace? For me, it is when I am overloaded. Stress makes me cranky. Rush makes me clumsy. Timelines make me snappy. Panic makes me freeze. None of these are good and desirable qualities…at all. I am at my worst and definitely the least Christ like when I am under a lot of demanding stress. Jesus knew that the 21st century would be coming and I think He wrote this verse just for us! We can come before Him in the middle of the problems of this day and age and He will extend mercy and grace to us.
My help comes from the Lord who made Heaven and earth. Psalm 121:2
As if receiving the grace and mercy of Jesus was not enough, He also promises to help us! All we have to do is ask. Turn over our problem. Delegate. Stand back and watch Jesus work. He wants to increase our faith and show us that we can trust Him. He wants to do good on our behalf and bless us. Why in the world would we want to hold on to our own tasks, stress and problems when our Bridegroom wants to give us so much more?
The bottom line is, no one likes a micromanager. Micromanagers can make others feel nervous, incapable and like they can do nothing correctly. Micromanagers can steal other people’s joy and enthusiasm. A micromanager’s behavior can drive people away putting even more responsibility on themselves.
As a fellow micromanaging sufferer, I can promise you that Satan wants us to keep full steam ahead with our crazy woman, control freak ways. Why? First, it probably makes people run the other way when they see us coming. Second, it keeps us so preoccupied with the here and now that we do not have time to focus on Kingdom advancement. Third, and most importantly, micromanaging makes us hoard our lives instead of surrendering fully to Jesus.
Our Bridegroom is a gentleman, so He will never bust in and take over, but He is standing beside you right now. He is offering to help you, bless you with wisdom, sooth your troubled spirit, battle your enemies and so much more. All we have to do is give Him permission. Jesus wants to team up with you and I to tackle this life thing. Are we going to delegate and entrust things to Him or hold on tight and micromanage or lives?
Cast all of your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7
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